Is it Time for Marriage Counseling?
Marriage counseling helps couples deal with differences and difficulties in positive and productive ways. It emphasizes the importance of communication and seeks to understand the individual’s role in a relationship. If you’ve experienced frustration because you can’t speak to your spouse or partner without yelling — if you’re feeling unloved or unappreciated due to their inability to listen to your requests and honor your needs — then marriage counseling is the right option for you.
How to Approach Talk Therapy for the First Time
If you’re new to talk therapy and aren’t yet comfortable with the idea of marriage counseling, there are things you can do to prepare yourself for your first session with a marriage counselor:
- Be openminded and willing to work with your counselor for best results.
- Refrain from shaming and blaming your partner during sessions.
- Take turns speaking and really listening to one another when in session.
That way, you’re able to make the most of your time while participating in talk therapy. One party won’t feel undervalued, attacked, or ignored while the other controls the session. You’re able to learn more about the other person that way, especially since you’re finding out what they need and lack in the relationship.
Listen to the advice of the professional and pay close attention to what they say. If you disagree, do so firmly but respectfully, helping the counselor understand why. That way, you practice listening as a skill to help you grow personally and as a couple. When you are reactionary and quick to speak, you lose some of the important information that you would have gained by sitting back and taking in what the marriage counselor suggests you do.
Why Choose Our Counseling Services?
At Heart Centered Counselors, you are our focus. Let us know how we can assist you with marriage counseling services. We offer in-person and virtual therapy to meet your needs. If you’re unable to travel, you can still benefit from working with our counselors via video-conference (called tele-therapy).