Look at Me: Learning to Share our Vulnerable Selves with the People that Love Us

Opening yourself up to another person can be intimidating. You may feel that they may not accept all of the things in your life – or your past – that you may hide from most people. In order to strengthen relationships you’ve created, you can consider becoming more genuine with the people that you know love you. When you know each other’s vulnerable selves, you can accept and love each other unconditionally.

Understand How Open You Want to Be

If you know that you are going to have an open and vulnerable conversation with someone, it is good to have thought through how to best create the moment beforehand. Getting to that deeper level of communication is a complicated process. Of course, you don’t want to share your deepest, darkest secrets when you or the other person are in a hurry. Find those people that you deeply connect with, set aside some slow time when you’re on a walk or sharing a meal, and then let the person know it is important that you share your inner self so that they understand who you are as a person.

Keep Yourself from Saying “I Don’t Know”

Often, when people say, “I don’t know”, they are saying that they don’t want to talk about something. If you hear yourself saying, “I don’t know”, take a pause. Figure out what you may be concealing and figure out why you may be anxious about sharing that information with a person you love and trust. Once you have thought about that, decide if you can fully trust that person and, if so, share more about yourself with them.

If you know that you close yourself off to people or you have a difficult time being vulnerable with the people who love you, this may be good thing to discuss with your therapist. They can help you sort through your emotions and help you figure out how to open up to others.