The Importance of Getting What You Want and the Importance of Valuing What You Have

Developing a sense of gratitude helps you see the gifts that you already have.

Your wants and needs change. That’s because you’re growing as a person. As new opportunities and experiences present themselves, you’re faced with decisions about what to do next.

How to Get What You Want

There will be times that you’ll need to ask for the things that you want. This may be the case with, for example, salary raises or workplace promotions. According to Psychology Today author Susan Krauss Whitbourne, Ph.D., there are many things you can do to help others see the value in giving you what you’ve asked for.

The first thing to do is to make sure that your request is reasonable. That way, you have a much better chance of getting a “yes”. Also, give a single, solid reason for the request. That way, you’re making your request clearly and succinctly.

Knowing why you want what you want helps you summon up the courage to ask for it. However, that doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t consider the needs of the other party and make the request in a way that’s respectful of them as well. Successful requests often involve kindness, helping the other person feel that your request is valuable to the both of you.

Being honest and sincere can help you get what you want. No matter how urgent the situation may be in your mind, it’s important to ask in a way that’s clear and allows the other person time to find an answer that’s true to them as well.

Appreciating What You Have

When you value what you have, it’s easier to get what you want. An attitude of appreciation helps others feel that you value them and that your wants are an extension of your appreciation. That helps people feel good about saying “yes” to you.

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