Why It Can Be so Hard to Ask for Help

If you’re checking out our website, you may be in the first stages of asking for help for the first time, which can be an incredibly difficult step to take. Counseling can make a huge difference in your quality of life, but taking the first step to finding a therapist can be one of the hardest things you’ll ever do. Why?

#1 – Anxiety Can Be Crippling

Anxiety is the most common type of mental illness in the United States, affecting roughly 40 million people. Depending on the type and severity of your anxiety, even the simplest of tasks may seem impossible. I personally have very bad phone anxiety (which is more common than you would expect), which is why we have the option for you to reach us by email at help@heartcenteredcounselors.com.

#2 – Depression Can Make You Feel Worthless

Another one of the most common mental illnesses is depression, which affected 16.2 million American adults last year. Depression is a double whammy because it can make the smallest of activities – like just getting out of bed or brushing your teeth – feel like insurmountable tasks. Additionally, depression can make you feel worthless, like you don’t deserve to feel better. It’s hard to ask for help when you feel like you don’t deserve it.

#3 – Asking for Help Feels Taboo

Even if you don’t have a mental illness holding you back, you may be afraid to ask for help dealing with the issues in your life because there is such taboo in this country regarding the need to get help with your issues. Maybe it’s thanks to our “pull yourself up by the bootstraps” Wild West heritage, but as Americans, we tend to feel like we must deal with our issues on our own. When I was originally diagnosed with depression, my mother told me to “stop feeling sorry for (my)self.”

#4 – Vulnerability Can Be Terrifying

Maybe you aren’t worried about the act of making the appointment – the idea of opening up and telling some of your deepest darkest secrets to a stranger can be terrifying. You may be afraid of being judged, or you may not want to revisit hard times in your past, even if you would benefit from addressing your feelings behind those experiences to improve your current life.

How Can You Overcome These Challenges to Ask for Help?

Regardless of your reason for hesitating to make an appointment, you’re here because you believe that you would benefit from talking to one of our caring counselors. What are some ways you can overcome your hesitation to make that first appointment?

  • Make a pro and con list. How could counseling benefit you? What are the potential downsides?
  • Ask yourself what the worst thing that could happen would be. Realistically, what’s the worst thing that could happen from talking to a counselor?
  • Think about what results you hope to achieve. What do you hope your life looks like after some counseling? Is that future good enough to overcome your hesitancy?
  • Take half a step. Maybe you aren’t ready to make an appointment yet, but you would like to talk to us to get a better feel for whether you would benefit from counseling. Call or email us for more information before committing to an appointment.


Ready to Take That Leap?

If you’re ready to ask for help and make an appointment to talk to one of our heart-centered counselors, call us at 970-498-0709 or email help@heartcenteredcounselors.com to start your journey toward feeling better and having an improved quality of life.