Why Many Couples Wait Too Long to Go to Marriage Counseling

Sometimes, fear of judgment —  or misinformation about how couples therapy works — can cause individuals to postpone marriage counseling.

Sometimes, people see marriage counseling only as a last resort before a divorce. They’re not aware of the benefits that therapy with a licensed counselor can provide. Perhaps the lack of transportation has gotten in the way and couples don’t realize that tele-therapy sessions exist with our marriage counselors. It could be that the couple is simply holding on to the hope that the relationship will fix itself. It’s also possible that a couple has received well-intended but ill-informed advice from family or friends who have their own anxieties about marriage counseling. And still, sometimes, there’s an unwillingness to agree to counseling by one person in the relationship, fearing they’ll be identified as the “bad partner”.

All of these things create barriers to healing. That’s why it’s important for couples to understand that there is no shame in asking for help with their relationship. In fact, it says a lot about a couple when they believe their marriage is worth saving, despite how bad things have become.

Where to Seek Information About Marriage Counseling

There are many ways you can learn more about therapy. The first is the LifeStance Health website. We provide detailed information about the marriage counseling process, counselors, and different service delivery models (e.g. tele-therapy and face-to-face therapy).

Perhaps the best way to learn is to try. You can always schedule a free consultation with a LifeStance Health counselor. We think it’s a step in the right direction because it’ll help you understand our approach to marriage counseling and get a feel for how it works.