You Are the Biggest Part of the Equation

I recently ran across a quote that said, “Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it.” (C. Swindoll) What you do with that 90% may take you in the direction you want to go, keep you exactly where you are or, perhaps, cause you to digress. It’s easy to look at this and say this is an easy choice; but like most things we strive for, it’s never as easy as it seems.

My daughter, for example, was diagnosed four years ago with an auto-immune disease. We did everything we were told to do, but she went from bad to worse. It was incredibly disheartening. What I’ve learned throughout these years is that what works for one person doesn’t necessarily work for the next.

Sometimes we can react to what life throws our way with determination, move towards finding an answer and still not get the results we hope for. So, what do we do? In our case it took not losing hope, remaining open through trial and error to find what would work, and relying on professionals to guide us along the way. The one thing that’s never been an option is giving up.

Whether you’re dealing with an abusive spouse, PTSD, addiction or any number of scenarios that make each day that much more challenging, you have the ability to impact your life and create a shift in the right direction. You can have empathy for the challenges of the past and remain hopeful for your future. Right?

Even though each person’s struggle is unique, I believe we all have one thing in common and that is to find peace. That may look differently for each one of us, but it’s definitely something to strive for. If this is your goal, continue to build toward it each day.

Here are some tips to guide you along the way

  1. The first tip is to begin each day thinking about 3-5 things that happened the previous day that you’re grateful for. Starting your day with gratitude will shift your perspective and create positive change.
  2. The second tip is to let someone in who has the tools to help you make the changes you need and desire in your life. There are gifted professionals who have a heart to partner with you and help you succeed and heal.
  3. The third, and this is incredibly important, is to implement what you are taught. Receiving information without taking action won’t get you as far. Have faith in the process and put in the work.

As you take steps to create change be patient with yourself, stay inspired and be stronger than you strongest excuse. Look at each day as a new beginning, and decide before challenges even arise how you are going to face them successfully. You deserve an amazing life. Never lose hope, stay motivated and take it one day at a time.